Making Assumption You have learned to accept what is yours and not
take anything personally. Now is the time to take the next step
while on your way to the Medicine Way in Mind, Body, Emotion and
Spirit. We all are prone to making assumptions. These assumptions
are based on our own belief system. We can and often do argue that
someone will not or will do this or that and when we will have to do
some other thing long before anything is said or done. We become
convinced that what we thought or assumed to be true, IS TRUE. It
hard to break the habit of assuming but it must be broken. Instead
of assuming, ask questions, probe for the truth, search out the root
and real issue, solution or what ever, because to do otherwise can
and does cause pain and grief thus suffering. Let us say you are at
the store and you see someone you like and they see you. They smile
and then leave the store. Now you are ready to make up any kind of
assumption. From that assumption, you have the starting of a great
fantasy. Now you believe this fantasy and because it is yours, you
place them in the picture of your mind and KNOW they like you very
much. Ouch, here is where you will be lead to a major crash and much
pain. You assumed the smile was one of deep affection and not one of
casual friendship. You are in the house and the phone rings and
before you can answer it, the ringing stops, or just as you answer
the party calling hangs up. Earlier in the morning you had an
argument with your mate. Now you know that the call is from someone
who your mate meets after work. You assume he or she is having an
affair or worse. Your mind is set to kill him in many ways. No
matter that the call was a misdial, you KNOW what it was. You can
make any number of mishaps you have suffered by assuming the worse
and running with it, or assuming the greatest and running with that.
Your hubby comes home and you react to his not bringing something
home. Your thought is that he has lived with you for a long time and
he SHOULD have known what to bring home. Bad assumption. How about
the self assumption. I know I should be able to do…… or I feel that
I should be able to make…… or what ever we choose to feel guilty
about. These can be just a damaging. Now is the time to stop
Assuming anything, that's right….ANYTHING! Free yourself of one of
the most disruptive of behaviors. Be clear in the future. ASK
questions. Don't be afraid. By asking questions you will be free of
the dream trap, the why me trap, the how could you trap and any
other you can think of. BY taking positive action now you are
planting the seeds of future peace and self awareness. You will rid
yourself of all the garbage you have built up around you and be free
to walk the Way in peace and with a positive attitude. The more you
practice the art of not assuming, the more you grow to be a white
magician and move away from the black arts of negativity.
As we are going to collect the many Ways to help us become Medicine,
here is the next in the series. Always Do Your Best Always to your
best is easy to say and easy to do. First you must remember that
what is your best one time is not necessarily your best another. At
any one moment during your day your best can change by your mood
change. There are so many variables to life and living alone or with
others has an effect on how you view your self and your day. What
are you to do if a friend calls and tells you about some very
emotional issue and how your stand is wrong. Are you going to be
able to the same best that you would do if you had just received a
letter from you family and they are giving you what you always
wanted and it is in the mail. Another downfall to your best is the
energy you put into trying your best. Yes Dorothy, you can try to
hard to do your best and you are not in Kansas. Trying too hard is
one of those memory things from our childhood. Can you remember, "If
you would only try harder you could get A's." How about, "with
enough effort you could do anything you wanted, if only ......".
Have I hit a cord? Well good, because there is such a thing as too
much trying and to little letting your "Self" do the work of your
best. Have you ever seen a three year old act other than a perfect
three year old? How about that 13 year old, is he anything other
than a perfect pain in the next? Is there anyway to get an old man
to act young again and frolic about as if they are 18? Can you see
that there is a natural way to being perfect. It does come natural.
What happens is the input from others as to why it can not be
achived. When you over stress you trying, you deplete your bady and
go against your natural self and thus can no longer accomplish your
goal. I was once told by my mentor when I asked the
question, "Uncle, if I sit and meditate for 64 hours a day, how long
will it take for me to move in the spirit world?" He answered that
it would take me about 3 years. Thinking I could cut the time to my
goal by meditating longer, I asked, " Uncle, if I meditated for 6
hours a day, how long would it take to be able to move in the spirit
woprld?" he answered that it would take 6 years. My shock must have
been on my face, because he then said to me that the way doesn't
call fro sacrifice but for living. In living you will find your best
and thus a faster path to the spirit world. Doing your best is also
doing something because you love it and not because you will get a
reward. If the reward is your goal, it would be easier and cheaper
to just go and pay for what you want. Your BEST is a natural state
of being and thus no matter who asks you to justify your actions, by
saying "I did my best" is all that needs saying. Your best at
anytime, is all that can be asked and all that can be given. Doing
you best is also a way of learning who you are and what you are
capable of doing. Doing your best is a way to become aware of you
and all around, thus you are being able to see what it may take to
manipulate your surroundings or make things happen as Susan has
seen. By doing your best in ALL you do, is a sure way to enjoying
ALL that you do. You will find your friendships will flower, your
patience will grow, your forgiveness will be ever deeper. So much of
you will be at a point beyond your fellow man and woman that they
will want to know what you did to change. Imagine when your friends
or your mate say, "WOW, How you've changed. What did you do??????"
More on this later. Peace and good life, Two Bears
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